Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Let's Talk About Sexy Men, by Jaci Burton

Let’s talk about sexy men. Oh, I know, you think because Bound, Branded & Brazen is set on a ranch and is about ranchers and cowboys that I’m talking about cowboys today. Well, yeah I love me some cowboys, those hat and Wrangler and boot wearin’ devils. I mean I think we can all agree that those guys are smokin’ hot and melt our butter. And okay, just for fun I did bring a few cowboy pictures with me because…damn….cowboys are sexy.

But that’s not who I’m talking about today. What defines a sexy man? Is it his profession? Maybe. My husband is an ironworker, and by the very nature of his job it defines who he is. He puts up the steel skeletons of a building in anything from a two-story to a fifty-story building, with nothing between him and the ground but a safety harness and his sure-footedness, in the highest winds and the harshest temperatures. And he’s been doing it for over thirty years. And before he did that he spent time jumping out of helicopters in Vietnam. So yes, I’d definitely define my husband as sexy, but of course I’m in love with him, so my opinion of him is certainly based on my heart. (He also looks pretty damn good in his Wranglers and cowboy boots. Rowrrrr).

But sexy also comes in many forms. Could an accountant or any other form of desk jockey be sexy? Could a computer technician or salesman be sexy? Could a trash collector or ditch digger or phone repairmen be sexy? Of course! I think any man can be sexy.

Let me tell you what I think defines sexy. Ever stand back and watch a man who’s peering into the engine of a car? A guy who can look at said engine and actually knows what he’s looking at? A guy who can get his hands dirty with motor oil and car grease and actually know how to fix what’s wrong? Oh, man, does that ever curl my toes.

Or a man who decides to build a dog house. From scratch. Without any plans other than wood and some nails. Or pounding in fence posts in 100 degree temperatures, sweat pouring down his neck and back while he measures the precise distance between those posts? Or a man who knows how to do all the fix it things in a house, from plumbing to electrical?

There’s something about intelligence mixed with hands on know how that I find so incredibly sexy. A man who doesn’t need to ‘hire out’ the dirty work, but actually enjoys doing it himself, no matter what his profession is. A man whose sense of accomplishment comes from doing those things himself using his brains as well as his brawn.

Or even beyond the physical labor….math. I find a man doing math to be an amazing turn on.

And then he’ll come in and do the dishes after his woman cooks dinner. Now that to me defines a sexy man.

Or how about a man that sits down and spends time with his children. A man that will turn off a football game to read with his son or daughter? I might just faint dead away.

Sexy is so much more than just physical looks. That might be what first drives us to the opposite sex, but it isn’t going to keep us there. There has to be something underneath that physical beauty to keep us interested. So I have this list of qualities that I have always thought important in a man, something I thought a man would have to have to be sexy enough to be a keeper:

1. Swagger – A man has to have confidence in himself. There’s nothing sexier in a man than a sense of self and his belief in himself. If a man is looking to you for his validation? Run like hell.

2. Honor – I want to know the man I love is an honorable man, a man with integrity and principles. A man that will put his woman and his family above everything else.

3. Respect – I always say you can judge a keeper of a man by how he treats his mother. If he doesn’t respect and honor his mother, he’s not going to respect and honor you. I’ve been around a pretty long time and I’ve found this to be true of most men I’ve known.

4. Intelligence – Sure he can look pretty, but there needs to be a brain to go along with that great ass, because smarts outweighs looks 100% of the time (at least for me).

5. Fearless - He has to be willing to take a bullet for me. And no, I’m not kidding because I’m willing to do the same for him. That’s what love is all about—self sacrifice.

So those are my thoughts on what makes a man sexy. Tell me yours.

Lea: What an excellent post, I think all those are sexy qualities too. *g* A huge thank you to Jaci Burton for spending the last 3 days here with us on the Island and for her generosity. I had a blast and I hope everyone who visited did too.

Contest is now closed. The winners will be announced soon!

He's a Harley-riding ex-thief working undercover for the government. She's a gun-toting ex-socialite hired to protect a valuable museum exhibit. But in her attempt to stop a heist, she never anticipated having her breath and her heart stolen...

Mac Canfield was the last man Lily West expected to see again, never mind aim her gun at. But here he was, the bad boy who'd broken her heart years ago-still a thief, this time high-jacking a priceless artifact--and it was all she could do to push aside the memories of how it felt to have his perfectly chiseled body next to hers.

Mac was no less shocked to see the beautiful girl-next-door all grown up, threatening to shoot him on the spot. Little did she know she was blowing his cover-and now he had to figure out how to get her out of harm's way without succumbing to his crazy desire to take her on a hot trip down memory lane.

Unfortunately, Lily has no intention of going anywhere with Mac. Which means he has to resort to kidnapping. Unless, of course, she agrees to let him take her for the kind of ride destined to drive them both unbelievably wild...

Jaci Burton lives in Oklahoma with her husband, Charlie, who inspires her to create stories about sexy, stubborn alpha males who don't always do what the heroine wants them to. Jaci has a teenaged stepdaughter who is her shopping buddy extraordinaire, and two grown sons who live on the west coast that she misses terribly but fortunately she gets to see when time and air travel permit.

Jaci is a multi published author who writes in many genres. Shes writes for Bantam Dell, Berkley, Ellora's Cave and Samhain Publishing. She feels fortunate to have won several awards, including the Romantic Times Book Review Magazine's Reviewer's Choice Award for Best Erotic Paranormal. To learn more about Jaci visit her website.


Lea said...

Morning Jaci!

I have to agree with all the qualities you mentioned in your post defining a "sexy man". Some men just have that confidence and "aura" about them that doesn't come through with only looks.

Thanks so much everyone, I had so much fun during your visits on the island! I hope you are having fun too.

Mary G said...

Hi Jaci & Lea
Wonderful post. That list is right on. I would only add a sense of humor. The Dad thing: When our son was little I asked my hubby how he could be such a great dad when he didn't have a dad in his life. He said "Easy. I want to be the kind of dad I would have wanted to have". Still touches me to tyhis day.

Mary G said...

forgot - don't enter me. I have all your books.

Scorpio M. said...

Hi Jaci,

I couldn't agree with your list (entire post, actually) more. For me #2 Honor is the most important *sexy* factor for me. I love a man who can wear a suit well, easy on the eyes a plus but no integrity? lack of ethics? selfish? even Brad Pitt won't do at that rate.

This has been a fun 3 days :)

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Carolyn Crane said...

Okay, I'm so into this description! And the thoughtful way you've created this post. It's really fun to read and think about what's sexy. I could do it all day!

Jaci Burton said...

Howdy everyone and thanks for welcoming me back for day 3 on the island!

Lea, you said it exactly--it's just that aura of confidence that defines sexy.

Mary--Humor! Of course. I can't believe I left that out because it's so important to me. A man has to be able to make me laugh. Life is serious enough without being able to laugh at the silliness of so much of it,you know? Great addition! And thanks for reading my books!

CrystalGB said...

Hi Jaci. I like all the qualities you listed. For me, I think it is sexy when a guy is unselfish and willing to help those in need. It shows what a good heart he has.

Unknown said...

Hi Jaci and Lea!

Wow, hot eye candy! I love the qualities, it is all about self-sacrifice. Such is love, romance, the one and only. When you find it, hang on tight. (It would be nice if they could all be Knights in white shining armor, but I'm happy to take the rough and ready cowboy...Heroes come in all forms.)

Dottie :)

Mitzi H. said...

Good Sense of Humor:

My hubby has always worked in construction and there is just something sexy about a man in his tool belt!!!

No need to enter me. I've got the first 2 books in the series.

Great post, Jaci!!!

jeanette8042 said...

Awesome post! I definitely agree with all your points about what makes a man sexy and I also think it's true that any type of man can be sexy, whether he's a cowboy or accountant.

Anonymous said...

This was a great post with pictures to match. It was a nice diversion from the bad weather we're having.

runner10 said...

Great post and pics!

Sweet Vernal Zephyr said...

Oh wow! You sure to make a convincing argument for sexy! I have to say that a cutting sense of humor that showcases his intelligence is sexy.

Miranda ~ SweetVernal Zephyr
Reviews Tweeted @MindyMiranda

Chelsea B. said...

I agree wholeheartedly with all the qualilies you listed! Definitely the definition of a sexy man!

Ina said...

Hi Jaci!
ok, honestly at a special point of your post I thought you were describing a dream man ;) but your list is fantastic - that are all very important qualities!! I love it when he helps others without thinking about himself...
Jaci, thanks for being here and for 3 fantastic days *hugs*
wish you all the best,

Fedora said...

Ooh, SO true, Jaci! Confidence is sexy--it doesn't matter if you're doing manual labor or something intellectual--if you know what you're doing, that's hot! And yep, a sense of humor is pretty appealing, too! Thanks for the great post!

(Don't enter me for Riding Wild--I've got that on the keeper shelf!)

Abbie said...

This was a fantastic post! I would love to have this book. I love second chance stories.

beth kery said...

Well said, Jaci! Here, here.

Sexy is so much more than looks.
My husband is a math genius and he can fix almost anything, from sinks to computers. Watching his intensity as he studies and figures out any piece of machinery and diagnoses the problem or seeing him spend hours looking on the internet for the right part for his son's motorcyle at an affordable price--all those things and more make him my kind of sexy.

Thanks for the great article, Jaci, and Lea, thanks for the recommendation. You're right. I loved it!

The Scarf Princess said...

I like your definition of a sexy man. It's not always just about looks. For me, any man that can cook me a meal gets extra handsome points. And if he cleans up after himself--woo wee hold me back

Armenia said...

Hi Jaci and Lea,

Love the post and beautiful eye candy. And I have to agree on those qualities as well. I'm going to add sensual and thoughtful to that list, and you've got my man.

These 3 days have been fun. Don't add my name for today's giveaway, I already have my copy on my keeper shelf.

Thanks for coming to the island, Jaci. Okay, pass over the Blow Fish Bikini. *smiles*

booklover0226 said...

There is something about a man and his swagger that just drives me nuts!

Tracey D
booklover0226 at gmail dot com

Katie Reus said...

Awesome post! Honor and respect are sooo important and you're right about the way a man treats his mom ;) I love a man good with his hands. My hubby has built so much stuff around our house and to me, that's sexy. Love it when he puts that tool belt on.

Anonymous said...

Jaci what a truly well thought out and very insightful post. All of your points are dead on and think what makes a man sexy to me is when they are not conscious of being good looking and when they still are able to poke fun at themselves and have a good time no matter what . I love the fact that my own DH is still able to make me feel that special something something even after almost 30 years together, that is sexy too even when the object of your affection like mine has a belly from overindulging in food and is going a little bald on his crown. Thanks for the 3 days of laughter and making us all think outside our box.
Thanks Lea and Jaci it has been great 3 days on the island!!!

jackie b central texas

Sue A. said...

Great list, but I have to add HUMOR to the list. He has to be able to laugh and have fun.

Unknown said...

I LUVED your post Jaci!! The pics were a good choice too!! LOL!! I just luv my western reads. I think sexy for me can be the clothes and the looks but it's also more than that. I was attracted to my hubby because he was sweet, romantic and into me. He didn't dress sexy, but he was sexy looking. He was an edgey bad boy and that did it for me. He's not a macho person but it doesn't matter to me. But, this may be the reason for my huge attraction to my Alpha reads though!! LOL!! Please enter me, I would love to read this book. Thanks, Sue

chey said...

Hi Jaci,
Great post! I agree with your list! I'd only add a sense of humour!

Estella said...

Your list is right on!

Cecile Smutty Hussy said...

Wow... please drop my name in the cowboy hat!!!!!!!!! This has been a great time at the island!!!

mariska said...

Agree with you ! those 1 to 4 qualities are mine. now i can add no 5 to my list :)

Since My hubby has a very good senses of humor. I find it sexy on him ^_^

ElaineG said...

Great post! I SO agree with everything you say...any man can BE sexy...and I also think sexy is in the eye of the beholder too. My husband is sexier to me now, after 21 years, than he was when I first met him....because I know him better, and he is still the man he projected the first time I saw him...THAT is sexy to me:)

Anonymous said...

Great post. I agree with your assessment. :-)

Spav said...

I agree with all the qualities on your list.

Lea said...

The contest is now closed thank you everyone who entered and visited Jaci while here on the island!


Twinky said...

They are so damn hot. No wonder a lot of women are checking about The Ultimate Man’s Sex CheckList. I mean, I couldn't blame them if these are the types of men. :)

Anonymous said...

I like it, though I think its important that they can admit when they are wrong.

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